Link to *The List* at Micah 6:8
Decide if you think that is any way for children to live.
There are a lot of reasons why adoption can be an awesome thing for a family. Here is one of mine.
For me, the decision to adopt is a parenting decision. If I really want to raise my kids to be selfless and to consider others more important than themselves (and I think I do), I have to model that behavior.
If my behavior tells my children "Yeah, I know there are BAD, BAD orphanages out there, and that we qualify to adopt, but right now it is more important for Mama and Papa to make sure they have a lot of money (or time to themselves, or nice vacations, whatever)", what am I teaching them? That you'd better look out for yourself before helping anyone else. That considering others more important than yourself is dangerous, and shouldn't be done until you are good and ready.
That is not what I want to model! Committing to "Garnet" was, in part, me asking myself to step it up as a selfless parent. I still fail all the time, in little things and big things, but the ongoing adoption is a big reminder to me to consider others more important than myself, especially in front of Junior! Just being a mom at home is a pretty good way to practice that.
For our family, adopting is just a part of training up our children in the way they should go.
Since it has been a week since I last posted, I feel obliged to check in. Progress is being made on our home study, our references have informed us that they are working hard. We are working on dossier stuff so that it doesn't blindside us when the HS is over.
We are trying to get our 14 mo old son (currently our only child) accustomed to the idea of having "babies" around (Garnet is NOT a baby agewise, but she will seem like one to Junior, especially if he keeps growing at the rate he is now). He calls babies "dedies" and gets very excited when he sees pictures of them. I hope this is a good sign :-)
That's all for now, hopefully we will have more exciting updates soon?
I was born in one of the more complicated counties to order birth certificate copies from, but after over a month of confusion and complication (and a trip to the notary), I just got an email from the county saying that my birth certificate copies are on their way.
I am just glad that we still live in the state where we got married. At least the marriage certificates were easy to come by :-)
We hustled and got our big folder turned in to our home study agency, and now we have to wait for them to go through it all and set up our interviews.
We have dossier paperwork to do, but that can't go anywhere until the home study is complete, so there is not a whole lot we can do there.
I have been having a heck of a time trying to order copies of my birth certificate. The county that I was born in makes the process trickier than many.
It's tough to keep the mental energy going when it feels like things are grinding to a (temporary) halt. When one is pregnant, the baby keeps growing, rain or shine, even on weekends and when government offices are closed. Not so with an adoption; the process actually can STOP. Things can actually get slowed down, and they can take longer than you expect.
By God's grace, we have been receiving lots of encouragement external to the adoption; hearing from people who we have never met who have been praying for Garnet and receiving enthusiastic support from friends at church. This sort of thing helps to keep us excited when we feel like we are wading through a morass of paperwork.
I wish I had a more exciting update to post, as it is, I only have bemused musings. Once our home study is really under way, things should liven up a bit on here.